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POSITIVE How to BE more 
(in only 5 seconds)
It's easy to create a negative belief…
It's easy to create a negative belief… 
>> first impressions
It's easy to create a negative belief… 
>> first impressions 
>> disappointment
It's easy to create a negative belief… 
>> first impressions 
>> disappointment 
>> failure
It's easy to create a negative belief… 
>> first impressions 
>> disappointment 
>> failure 
>> embarrassment
It's easy to create a negative belief… 
>> first impressions 
>> disappointment 
>> failure 
>> embarrassment 
>> fear
It's easy to create a negative belief… 
>> first impressions 
>> disappointment 
>> failure 
>> embarrassment 
>> fear 
>> exhaustion
HOW BELIEFS ARE CREATED
Something bad happens (or might happen)
Something bad happens (or might happen) 
AND WE FEEL BAD.
Something bad happens (or might happen) 
AND WE FEEL BAD. 
Our bad feeling becomes a negative belief that 
bad things always happen.
Something bad happens (or might happen) 
AND WE FEEL BAD. 
Our bad feeling becomes a negative belief that 
bad things always happen. 
Our negative belief changes how we act.
Something bad happens (or might happen) 
AND WE FEEL BAD. 
Our bad feeling becomes a negative belief that 
bad things always happen. 
Our negative belief changes how we act. 
Soon, the voice in our head sounds like:
Something bad happens (or might happen) 
AND WE FEEL BAD. 
Our bad feeling becomes a negative belief that 
bad things always happen. 
Our negative belief changes how we act. 
Soon, the voice in our head sounds like: 
“They are always difficult to be with.” 
“I can never get this right!” 
“Nobody wants to buy my stuff!” 
“If I fail I’ll lose everything!” 
“I never have enough energy.”
Dr. Martin Seligman (the father of positive psychology)
Dr. Martin Seligman (the father of positive psychology) 
When we create a negative belief: Our problem has gone from a 
small thing that happened once or twice to…
Dr. Martin Seligman (the father of positive psychology) 
When we create a negative belief: Our problem has gone from a 
small thing that happened once or twice to… 
PERMANENT (it isn’t going away) 
PERSONAL (it’s my fault) 
PERVASIVE (it always happens)
AND, to make it worse,
AND, to make it worse, 
our brain has one more trick.
AND, to make it worse, 
our brain has one more trick. 
When bad things happen, like:
AND, to make it worse, 
our brain has one more trick. 
When bad things happen, like: 
• late fees, 
• missed appointments, 
• lost sales, 
• arguments, 
• gaining weight, 
• or breakups
We look for evidence to prove our belief 
is right.
“I wouldn’t have seen it 
if I didn’t believe it.” 
Marshall McLuhan
Pretty soon your belief becomes 
FACT and you act as if it’s TRUE.
HERE’S WHAT I KNOW
HERE’S WHAT I KNOW 
NEGATIVE BELIEFS filter reality and keep good news out.
HERE’S WHAT I KNOW 
NEGATIVE BELIEFS filter reality and keep good news out. 
NEGATIVE BELIEFS stomp on ideas before they can grow.
HERE’S WHAT I KNOW 
NEGATIVE BELIEFS filter reality and keep good news out. 
NEGATIVE BELIEFS stomp on ideas before they can grow. 
NEGATIVE BELIEFS kill dreams and keep us small.
“A great many people think they 
are thinking when they are merely 
rearranging their prejudices.” 
William James
So, how are successful 
people so 
P O S I T I V E ?
Simple: they change their mind.
HOW TO CHANGE YOUR MIND (in only 5 seconds) 
THE MODEL
1. AWARE 
Realize something isn’t working AND you have 
choices. Sure, there are people you can blame and 
maybe you did screw up. But, what you are 
experiencing right now is under your control. 
AWARE ACCOUNTABLE ASK ACTION
2. ACCOUNTABLE 
Superman only saves cartoon characters and 
good luck trying to win the lottery. You are 
responsible. Now, decide what you want and 
get ready to work for it. 
AWARE ACCOUNTABLE ASK ACTION
3. ASK 
Blame is judgment - curiosity opens doors. When 
you ask “Why does this always happen to me?” 
your sub-conscious comes up with 12 (or more) 
reasons why you failed. 
That won’t help. 
Instead, ask a good question, like “What’s one 
thing I can do RIGHT NOW to make this better?” 
AWARE ACCOUNTABLE ASK ACTION
4. ACTION 
This is where the rubber hits the road and you 
practice taking control. Successful people train their 
mind to instantly flip the switch and turn more light 
on what’s in their way. 
They don’t run away. 
And they don’t look for more bad things to happen. 
They change their mind and take action. 
AWARE ACCOUNTABLE ASK ACTION
HOW TO CHANGE YOUR MIND (in only 5 seconds) 
IN PRACTICE
! 
! 
ARGUEMENT 
The fastest way to change 
someone is for you go first. 
Apologize for how they feel 
and ask how you can make 
things better. Don’t argue, get 
defensive, or pissy. 
Just let them know you heard 
them and you care. 
AWARE ACCOUNTABLE ASK ACTION
! 
! 
SALES 
Pick up the phone and call a 
client. But, don’t try to sell 
them. Simply, ask them what 
they need. And then ask 
another question. And another. 
Build trust and empathy now 
and you’ll get all the sales you 
need later. 
AWARE ACCOUNTABLE ASK ACTION
AWARE ACCOUNTABLE ASK ACTION 
! 
! 
EXERCISE 
Put on your running shoes and 
walk out the door. Don’t think 
about it. Set your watch for 20 
minutes. 
Don’t debate it. 
Get to the road, start jogging. 
Don’t stop.
AWARE ACCOUNTABLE ASK ACTION 
! 
! 
DEBT 
Call the credit card company, 
explain your mistake and ask to 
have the late fee removed. Go 
to your bank. Set up a monthly 
auto payment to reduce your 
debt. 
Every action (even small ones) 
takes you closer to your goal.
“Our concentration on 
a positive thought 
robs the painful 
thought of its sting.” 
Richard Restak, Mozart’s 
Brain and the Fighter Pilot
The most powerful habit 
is the habit 
to change 
your mind.
This is your job 
Find something TODAY 
to be positive about, 
just because you can.
!! 
Are you ready to… 
!!!
Are you ready to… 
! 
STOP Procrastinating TODAY! 
!!! 
8 fast strategies to get you from avoiding, to doing, to DONE.
Are you ready to… 
STOP Procrastinating TODAY! 
!!!! 
8 fast strategies to get you from avoiding, to doing, to DONE. 
Download your 
FREE COPY! 
YES, I want my free book!
Are you ready to… 
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!!!!! 
8 fast strategies to get you from avoiding, to doing, to DONE. 
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Photo Credits:! 
! 
Woman looking: www.flickr.com/photos/danielavladimirova/5801590716 
Punker: www.flickr.com/photos/lehnin78/14371279913 
Woman stretching: www.flickr.com/photos/ash_hershberger/7042151137 
Basketball team: www.flickr.com/photos/dborman2/5456503518 
Surfer: www.flickr.com/photos/90982314@N00/7755381064 
Older lady sticking tongue out: www.flickr.com/photos/poxypixels/8064118261 
Standing on cliff: www.flickr.com/photos/epsos/4376727123 
Guy looking, plaid jacket: www.flickr.com/photos/carbonnyc/3248846504 
Card player: www.flickr.com/photos/dani_vazquez/12644326014 
Three people on bench: www.flickr.com/photos/mario-mancuso/8909880242 
Guy looking, stud in ear: www.flickr.com/photos/titlap/3936883765 
Man on bench, sunglasses: www.flickr.com/photos/pewu/224688578 
Three ladies having tea: www.flickr.com/photos/skrefsrud/14438341782 
Woman holding up smiley face: www.flickr.com/photos/katerha/5637856336 
“Argument”: woman: www.flickr.com/photos/58847482@N03/5626162081 
“Exercise” woman: www.flickr.com/photos/barretthall/7421890566 
“Debt” credit cards: www.flickr.com/photos/smemon/12696360474 
Richard Restak, quote: woman: www.flickr.com/photos/mlazarevski/8467690532 
Girl in flowers: www.flickr.com/photos/leventlecri/2440839767

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How to be more positive (in only 5 seconds)

  • 1. POSITIVE How to BE more (in only 5 seconds)
  • 2. It's easy to create a negative belief…
  • 3. It's easy to create a negative belief… >> first impressions
  • 4. It's easy to create a negative belief… >> first impressions >> disappointment
  • 5. It's easy to create a negative belief… >> first impressions >> disappointment >> failure
  • 6. It's easy to create a negative belief… >> first impressions >> disappointment >> failure >> embarrassment
  • 7. It's easy to create a negative belief… >> first impressions >> disappointment >> failure >> embarrassment >> fear
  • 8. It's easy to create a negative belief… >> first impressions >> disappointment >> failure >> embarrassment >> fear >> exhaustion
  • 9. HOW BELIEFS ARE CREATED
  • 10. Something bad happens (or might happen)
  • 11. Something bad happens (or might happen) AND WE FEEL BAD.
  • 12. Something bad happens (or might happen) AND WE FEEL BAD. Our bad feeling becomes a negative belief that bad things always happen.
  • 13. Something bad happens (or might happen) AND WE FEEL BAD. Our bad feeling becomes a negative belief that bad things always happen. Our negative belief changes how we act.
  • 14. Something bad happens (or might happen) AND WE FEEL BAD. Our bad feeling becomes a negative belief that bad things always happen. Our negative belief changes how we act. Soon, the voice in our head sounds like:
  • 15. Something bad happens (or might happen) AND WE FEEL BAD. Our bad feeling becomes a negative belief that bad things always happen. Our negative belief changes how we act. Soon, the voice in our head sounds like: “They are always difficult to be with.” “I can never get this right!” “Nobody wants to buy my stuff!” “If I fail I’ll lose everything!” “I never have enough energy.”
  • 16. Dr. Martin Seligman (the father of positive psychology)
  • 17. Dr. Martin Seligman (the father of positive psychology) When we create a negative belief: Our problem has gone from a small thing that happened once or twice to…
  • 18. Dr. Martin Seligman (the father of positive psychology) When we create a negative belief: Our problem has gone from a small thing that happened once or twice to… PERMANENT (it isn’t going away) PERSONAL (it’s my fault) PERVASIVE (it always happens)
  • 19. AND, to make it worse,
  • 20. AND, to make it worse, our brain has one more trick.
  • 21. AND, to make it worse, our brain has one more trick. When bad things happen, like:
  • 22. AND, to make it worse, our brain has one more trick. When bad things happen, like: • late fees, • missed appointments, • lost sales, • arguments, • gaining weight, • or breakups
  • 23. We look for evidence to prove our belief is right.
  • 24. “I wouldn’t have seen it if I didn’t believe it.” Marshall McLuhan
  • 25. Pretty soon your belief becomes FACT and you act as if it’s TRUE.
  • 27. HERE’S WHAT I KNOW NEGATIVE BELIEFS filter reality and keep good news out.
  • 28. HERE’S WHAT I KNOW NEGATIVE BELIEFS filter reality and keep good news out. NEGATIVE BELIEFS stomp on ideas before they can grow.
  • 29. HERE’S WHAT I KNOW NEGATIVE BELIEFS filter reality and keep good news out. NEGATIVE BELIEFS stomp on ideas before they can grow. NEGATIVE BELIEFS kill dreams and keep us small.
  • 30. “A great many people think they are thinking when they are merely rearranging their prejudices.” William James
  • 31. So, how are successful people so P O S I T I V E ?
  • 32. Simple: they change their mind.
  • 33. HOW TO CHANGE YOUR MIND (in only 5 seconds) THE MODEL
  • 34. 1. AWARE Realize something isn’t working AND you have choices. Sure, there are people you can blame and maybe you did screw up. But, what you are experiencing right now is under your control. AWARE ACCOUNTABLE ASK ACTION
  • 35. 2. ACCOUNTABLE Superman only saves cartoon characters and good luck trying to win the lottery. You are responsible. Now, decide what you want and get ready to work for it. AWARE ACCOUNTABLE ASK ACTION
  • 36. 3. ASK Blame is judgment - curiosity opens doors. When you ask “Why does this always happen to me?” your sub-conscious comes up with 12 (or more) reasons why you failed. That won’t help. Instead, ask a good question, like “What’s one thing I can do RIGHT NOW to make this better?” AWARE ACCOUNTABLE ASK ACTION
  • 37. 4. ACTION This is where the rubber hits the road and you practice taking control. Successful people train their mind to instantly flip the switch and turn more light on what’s in their way. They don’t run away. And they don’t look for more bad things to happen. They change their mind and take action. AWARE ACCOUNTABLE ASK ACTION
  • 38. HOW TO CHANGE YOUR MIND (in only 5 seconds) IN PRACTICE
  • 39. ! ! ARGUEMENT The fastest way to change someone is for you go first. Apologize for how they feel and ask how you can make things better. Don’t argue, get defensive, or pissy. Just let them know you heard them and you care. AWARE ACCOUNTABLE ASK ACTION
  • 40. ! ! SALES Pick up the phone and call a client. But, don’t try to sell them. Simply, ask them what they need. And then ask another question. And another. Build trust and empathy now and you’ll get all the sales you need later. AWARE ACCOUNTABLE ASK ACTION
  • 41. AWARE ACCOUNTABLE ASK ACTION ! ! EXERCISE Put on your running shoes and walk out the door. Don’t think about it. Set your watch for 20 minutes. Don’t debate it. Get to the road, start jogging. Don’t stop.
  • 42. AWARE ACCOUNTABLE ASK ACTION ! ! DEBT Call the credit card company, explain your mistake and ask to have the late fee removed. Go to your bank. Set up a monthly auto payment to reduce your debt. Every action (even small ones) takes you closer to your goal.
  • 43. “Our concentration on a positive thought robs the painful thought of its sting.” Richard Restak, Mozart’s Brain and the Fighter Pilot
  • 44. The most powerful habit is the habit to change your mind.
  • 45. This is your job Find something TODAY to be positive about, just because you can.
  • 46. !! Are you ready to… !!!
  • 47. Are you ready to… ! STOP Procrastinating TODAY! !!! 8 fast strategies to get you from avoiding, to doing, to DONE.
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  • 49. Are you ready to… STOP Procrastinating TODAY! !!!!! 8 fast strategies to get you from avoiding, to doing, to DONE. Click here! YES, I want my free book!
  • 50. Photo Credits:! ! Woman looking: www.flickr.com/photos/danielavladimirova/5801590716 Punker: www.flickr.com/photos/lehnin78/14371279913 Woman stretching: www.flickr.com/photos/ash_hershberger/7042151137 Basketball team: www.flickr.com/photos/dborman2/5456503518 Surfer: www.flickr.com/photos/90982314@N00/7755381064 Older lady sticking tongue out: www.flickr.com/photos/poxypixels/8064118261 Standing on cliff: www.flickr.com/photos/epsos/4376727123 Guy looking, plaid jacket: www.flickr.com/photos/carbonnyc/3248846504 Card player: www.flickr.com/photos/dani_vazquez/12644326014 Three people on bench: www.flickr.com/photos/mario-mancuso/8909880242 Guy looking, stud in ear: www.flickr.com/photos/titlap/3936883765 Man on bench, sunglasses: www.flickr.com/photos/pewu/224688578 Three ladies having tea: www.flickr.com/photos/skrefsrud/14438341782 Woman holding up smiley face: www.flickr.com/photos/katerha/5637856336 “Argument”: woman: www.flickr.com/photos/58847482@N03/5626162081 “Exercise” woman: www.flickr.com/photos/barretthall/7421890566 “Debt” credit cards: www.flickr.com/photos/smemon/12696360474 Richard Restak, quote: woman: www.flickr.com/photos/mlazarevski/8467690532 Girl in flowers: www.flickr.com/photos/leventlecri/2440839767