By popular demand! Discussion guide for The Catholic Home: Celebrations & Traditions for Holidays, Feast Days, and Every Day (Doubleday).
Prepared by author, Meredith Gould, Ph.D. Suitable for use with adult faith formation and other groups of individuals interested in exploring Catholic identity and culture.
2. Discussion Guide
for
The Catholic Home
Celebrations and Traditions for Holidays,
Feast Days, and Every Day
by
Meredith Gould, Ph.D.
The Value of Tradition
Throughout The Catholic Home, author Meredith Gould writes about the impact
of growing up Jewish with lots of home-based religious celebrations. And so:
Which home-based customs and traditions did your family celebrate when
you were growing up?
In your family growing up who, if anyone, was in charge of the “domestic
church”?
If this was part of your family’s culture, how did you feel about it being that
way when you were growing up? How do you feel about it now?
What would you say has been the impact of not growing up in a home where
any religious customs and traditions were celebrated?
Why do you think knowledgeable observers say suburbanization is
responsible for the decline of ethnic churches?
How would someone visiting your home today know you’re a Catholic
Christian?
What would you have to add – or remove – so your home strengthens the
presence of Christ?
In addition, the author is a strong advocate for following the liturgical calendar. And
so:
How might your understanding of faith change by organizing your life around
the liturgical calendar?
How might your appreciation of Catholicism change by organizing your life
around the liturgical calendar?
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3. Are special religious events (e.g., the day you/your children were baptized)
included on the calendar you keep for birthdays, anniversaries and
celebrations?
How does the liturgical calendar provide a way to understand the life of Jesus
the Christ?
What is the spiritual value of observing Holy Days of Obligation?
Advent and Christmas
Why does the liturgical (church) calendar begin with Advent?
How would celebrating Advent as a separate season rather than a “pre-
Christmas” shopping spree change Christmas for you and your family?
How might you persuade your family to focus on Advent during Advent?
Which home-based Advent customs and traditions do you already celebrate?
Which home-based Advent customs and traditions appeal to you the most and
why?
While you were growing up, was Christmas more of a holiday or a holy day?
Which home-based Christmas customs and traditions do you already
celebrate?
Which home-based Christmas customs and traditions appeal to you the most
and why?
Where and how does Santa Claus feature in your Christmas celebrations?
When do you put up your Christmas tree and when do you take it down?
Ordinary Time
How has your understanding of Ordinary Time changed as a result of reading
The Catholic Home?
What could you do to make Ordinary Time(Winter) become extraordinary for
you and your loved ones?
What could you do to make Ordinary Time (Summer and Fall) become
extraordinary for you and your loved ones?
Lent and Easter
How do you prepare your home and family for Lent?
The author asks readers to think more carefully and critically about “giving
up” things for Lent, what do you think?
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4. Ash Wednesday, which is not a Holy Day of Obligation, is a time when many
people who do not otherwise go to church, receive ashes at church. Why?
Which home-based Lenten customs and traditions do you already celebrate?
Which home-based Lenten customs and traditions appeal to you the most and
why?
Easter breakfast or Easter dinner?
Which home-based Easter customs and traditions do you already celebrate?
Which home-based Easter customs and traditions appeal to you the most and
why?
What is the significance of all the candle lighting ceremonies for church and
home? How would observing these at home make a difference for you and
your loved ones?
Where and how does the Easter Bunny feature in your Easter celebrations?
Daily Devotions
Which home-based daily devotions do you already observe?
Which home-based daily devotions appeal to you the most and why?
How would you make a case for observing daily devotions as a family?
Crucifix or Cross?
How many copies of Holy Scripture do you have in your home? Where are
they kept? Which translation(s) do you like the most and why?
Did you grow up praying the Rosary as a family? If so, what impact did that
have on you? If not, what might you have missed?
How would you make a case for praying the Rosary on a regular basis?
What do praying the Rosary, gazing at icons, and practicing lectio divina have
in common?
Did you grow up praying grace before meals? If so, what impact did that have
on you? If not, is that something you do – or would like to start doing – today?
How would your home and spiritual life change if you instituted the “Great
Silence” at your house?
The author writes, “Blessings are sacramentals that bring liturgical life to the
home front.” What does she mean by this?
If you had to choose one traditional devotion that you consider the most
heart-opening, soul-nourishing, and spirit-lifting, what would it be?
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5. Honoring the Sacraments
Thinking about how the “domestic church” might extend the grace of each
sacrament in daily life, discuss home-based activities that would support:
Baptism
Confirmation
First Eucharist and Communion in general
Reconciliation and Penance
Anointing of the Sick
Holy Matrimony
Holy Orders
How do you imagine the sacraments of initiation might be different for those
who receive them during adulthood?
How and why did your parents choose your baptismal name?
If you have a Confirmation name, what influenced your choice?
How has being confirmed in the Catholic Church shaped your attitudes,
beliefs, and feelings about the Church?
What do you remember most about your First Holy Communion?
What about the sacrament of Reconciliation do you find comforting? Off-
putting?
Central to Ignatian spirituality is a daily Examination of Conscience. How
might this practice enhance your spirituality?
If you had to create your own Penance, what would it be?
If you’re married and had a church wedding, what helped you realize Holy
Matrimony is a sacrament?
Mary
Holy Mary, Mother of God and lots of other titles! Which ones appeal to you
the most? Which ones make the most sense to you? Which ones seem quirky
or downright weird?
Essential Prayers
Of the prayers included in Appendix D, which do you already know “by heart”
and which one(s) do you rely upon the most during personal times of prayer?
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6. And…
Thinking about your life so far, when have you been the most proud of being
Roman Catholic?
If you were called upon to explain why you’re Roman Catholic, what would
you say?
What’s the one thing you can do right now to embrace and celebrate your
Roman Catholic identity and faith?
Faith is a treasure of life, which is
enriched by being shared.
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